The Invitation You Keep Hoping Will Come

Maybe they will invite you.

To the dinner. The trip. The group. The relationship. The opportunity.

Hope is harmless until it begins reserving your calendar.

You decline other possibilities because something better might happen. You keep the evening open. You postpone your own plan in case someone finally remembers to include you.

This is a subtle way to make another person's uncertainty the manager of your time.

Make the plan.

Buy the ticket. Invite someone else. Go alone if that sounds better than staying home in suspense.

If the invitation arrives later, you can decide then.

Availability is not the same thing as openness.

You can remain open to being chosen without organizing your life around the possibility.